Two weeks ago, I had the pleasure of sitting at the kitchen table opposite my ex-wife. The table was given to me by her mother 10 years or so ago, when she moved to a smaller house. It was strange, and we remarked on it, to be sitting at the same table as we once sat 27 years ago when we first met. My ex was down from her Suffolk castle to see the new grand-son. She is the mother of my children and owes me 18 years of maintenance, but who is quibbling over 80 grand? We got on fine, as did her and the Lovely Mel.
So today, it was a bit of a shock to get back from Asda, to find Evil Mel in the house. Evil Mel is my ex of 10 years (1989-1999), my long termer after I was married. The Boy came rushing out to warn me. It was a bit awkward to say the least. I nodded hello and retreated to the kitchen to unpack. This is the Evil Mel who, in 1999, allowed to me to go to Cologne for a weekend to attend a Demo (I think it was a Jubilee 2000 expedition to lobby the G6/G7/G8, whatever they are). While I was away, she stripped the house (the one I still live in) of furniture, in front of my kids, and moved out. I returned to find my sister squatting on a box, looking after the children (this was before we had mobile phones). I have hardly spoken to her since, especially not pleasantly, but she does rear her ugly head now and then. So the relationship did end badly (I can still feel the bruise on my chin from when she punched me before I went to Cologne). She always used to engineer a row with my daughter if I was going away on my own, just to mess with my mind.
So it was something of a shock to find her in the house. Lovely Mel had a look of thunder as we brought the shopping in. Eventually the Boy took her out. I assume she is here to see the baby too. I am not sure if my daughter will be impressed as Evil Mel was always finding fault with her, especially if EM's own daughter had done something wrong and needed dealing with (which was frequently).
It's weird how, because of my children, I get to see both my exs in my own house, within a fortnight. I am not sure this visit was very pleasant.
7 comments:
Oh, Andy,
Where did it all go so wrong?
I could write pages here but it wouldn't be appropriate.
Drop me a note at henrythethirst at AOsmelL dot con so I have a private address to get back to you.
All love to you and yours.
D.
Since she took all your furniture, I would have made her stand up, or sit on a box like you had to, unless she brought one of your chairs back to sit on!
Still looks like you got it right third time with Lovely Mel.
Third time lucky indeed, eh? I find it hard to believe the cheek of some people, actually. Why on earth would E.M. want to show her face round your house anyway? Even if she does want to see the brand new little person, why do you need to be involved?
Sorry... these are mostly rhetorical questions. I just can't stand gameplaying at any level. You have my utmost sympathy.
If nobody lkes EM, why the heck did anyone bother to get in touch with her ? Cross her off the Christmas card list straight away!
My children keep in touch with each other and their ex "mothers" in ways far too secretive and complex for me to understand. As for Evil Mel, she has always been pushy and wouldnt hesitate to invite herself round. The children are learning to deflect it, but it takes time.
Regardless of relationships (which boy do I know are so tricky) she's taking the piss...If she's in your house without your explicit permission tell her to **** off...
Sorry, but castles and that sort of thing...
Bloody hell! I realise the situation must be incredibly difficult, but shouldn't your kids respect you enough to tell EM to keep away from your home?
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