My dad died today, in the company of his wife, my mum, and all of his three children. He was peaceful and asleep.
Apparently, dying in the company of your family doesn't occur too often these days, so good for dad. The last time he smiled and responded was yesterday when he had learnt I had fixed the lock on the front door (bodged, but in a good way).
This morning, when the nurse came round, she called us all together, and he just stopped. Mum and him have been like young lovers these last few days.
We all cried (wept? ) , and as family do, got on with it and made different tasks our own, and all was sorted. He was taken out of the house at 1530. All their friends informed and the arrangements made. I had to come back to Devon, but bad sister is still there (and the bad epithet is going to have to change soon, so I have Good Sister One and Good Sister Two), although Bad Sister can still destroy a bottle of Southern Comfort with me, like we did last night.
Grief was this morning and will be when I let it in the future. For mum it is now and desperate. She has lost the person who was her support and guide for 50 years. That's Love
16 comments:
Bless you Hutters...been there and done it (albeit at a much younger age)...Sorry but you WILL handle it...eventually...your mum on the other hand...
My thoughts are with you...
I am so very sorry for your loss
You and your family are in my thoughts,
Julianna
Thinking of you matey.
Hugs from a spud. No words. You know.
M x
There's a lot to be said for a peaceful death, but it doesn't hurt any less. {{hugs}}
Jenny
I am so very sorry, LordH, my thoughts are with you and your family.
But what a lovely way for your Dad to pass on, surrounded by those he loved and who loved him.
{hugs}
You did well LH. Take care of yourself and your mum and your sisters.
So sorry. I'm glad you could be there. ((hugs))
Jane
((((((LH)))))))
Holding you tight in my heart.
You are in our thoughts and we will come to see you and M very soon. (I will phone you after a suitable time has passed)
Peace and love
Mermy and Rosie
Been there,25 years ago. I get sad for a little while even now when I think about it, which is only right. Best wishes to all. David
*hugs*
So sorry, Andy. No words of mine can make any difference.Just thinking of you all.
x (that's a manly one, obv)
I'm so sorry, Andy. What a rotten time for you all.
I've been there several times myself.
There's a lot to be done and I would suggest that you let your mum do as much as she can. It's good to keep busy and sitting indoors, looking at four walls is no good to her at all.
Any important decisions shouldn't be made for several months. You may think you're clear headed but you almost certainly are not.
Take extra care when driving too. x
*hugs to your family and yourself Hutters. Look after yourself. You'll make it through this horrid time, all of you will. You're in my thoughts xxx
So sorry Hutters - I've been reading your blog from bottom to top and didn't expect to see this entry. Stay strong!
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